Taking Control of Our Actions

There always seems to be something going on in our household where someone is pointing the finger of blame on someone else.

My boys point the finger to each other claiming that someone ELSE made the mess, hit, threw the ball inside, peed on the floor, etc.

I point the finger to someone else blaming them for making me eat the cookies in the cookie jar.

If we are honest with ourselves we must learn to take control of our actions.

When I am frustrated with life’s circumstances… how I handle that tension or stress is watched and taught to my children.  Whether I want my behavior/choice to be taught or not.

They see me running to the pantry, yelling, crying, grunting, or lacing up my running shoes.

The point is… good or bad… I am the example to my children on how to address my frustrations.

Most of the time when we feel stressed or frustrated it is caused by a lack of control over a certain situation.  We must teach (ourselves) and our children to learn to let go of tension and return to feeling more in charge.

When we regain composure and control over our situation we have clarity.  The journey to get control is a learned process.

For my children, learning self-control and bodily awareness is a learning process.  These items are taught and takes time to fully develop.  The main lesson is repetition – even when Mommy is tired of repeating the lesson over and over again!

For me, I am still learning to gain control over my food choices.  When I am frustrated, I tend to run with open hands to the pantry (cookie jar to be exact).  I know that that choice will not give me clarity of mind or even help the situation… I am working through it.  I know that there is no one to blame, but myself. I am in control of my own actions.

I know that God has given me power over my food choices. I am supposed to consume food. Food isn’t supposed to consume me.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, my power is made perfect in weakness”… For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
(2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

I am holding fast to the Truth and trusting God.  When I find myself losing control (am weak) – which happens often!! – I call out to God to help me.

No more finger pointing.
No more finger waving, he said-she said.

Take control of your actions… they are yours! Own it.

** This post is more a reminder to myself, as I am still working on taking control of my own actions and emotions.  Please do not take this as I have it all together – as I do not.  As always, I am learning and growing daily. **